Wednesday, August 13, 2008

Analogy to understand damage of porn/child porn

I had already signed off for the evening but when reading another horrible news story about the rape and murder of a six year old girl, I thought of an analogy to help you social libs to understand why porn, especially child porn, is so dangerous. (This is totally beside the fact that porn is not "victimless," since obviously a child was victimized in the producing of it, and is re-victimized each and every time the porn is distributed and viewed).

Those of you who engage in outdoor activities are aware that there is a constant danger if a predatory animal, let's say a bear or a lion, loses its fear of humans. The bear or the lion then starts hanging around human areas, possibly raiding houses and garbage. They become a "nuisance bear" or a "nuisance lion." We read about this all the time. Often what animal control officers will do it trap the nuisance animal and move it to a remote area, if it does not seem dangerous.

This is the erroneous image of porn viewers by libs. They think that it is "private" behavior and if it is a nuisance, then you take away the porn or isolate the person from potential victims.

The correct view of porn is the third step in the "normal human fearing predator" to "nuisance not human fearing predator," which is "the predator views the human as potential food." Animal control officers know that a predator, again, let's say a lion or a bear, who attacks, draws blood and takes a bite out of a human now views that human as being a newly discovered legitimate source of food. Animal control officers now know they must destroy the animal, since it is no longer a "nuisance animal" but a "human killer." The old fashioned term for a lion who did that was a "man killer."

The viewing of porn changes the wiring of the human brain so that acts they would never have thought of doing, like the predatory animal, now becomes viewed as "feasible." So libs are wrong to think that porn viewing, especially child porn, but even "regular" porn because of its continually message of "all sexual partners open access all the time," falls in the nuisance bear or lion analogy, and needs to just be "managed" or "limited." Humans have NEVER been "programmed" to think that sex is "always available." Porn has destroyed human mental wiring so that there is a (and that's why they are called predatory) predatory of the eyes and the libido that is exactly the same as an animal that loses its taste for normal animal prey and now thinks that humans are a food option.

I am not exaggerating in the least. It has nothing to do with being a prude. It's understanding the incredible damage that has been done to everyone's brains by the proliferation of pornography, and especially child porn.

For example, I read about an ex-cop who took home child porn evidence instead of destroying it, and used it to feed what became, allegedly, criminal sexual abuse. I have long worried about the damage to law enforcement, juries and others who must view this material, by the way. I don't worry they will become abuses, but viewing that material, even in the course of law enforcement or social work and counseling, has the same brain wiring changes, and at the very least adds to what I would call intimacy stress in normal adult relationships (and also around one's own or other children, as one may even become too cautious and compensatory in result of viewing porn).

But back to the important point, which is the porn user and producer. Viewers of porn and especially child porn (which is hard to avoid as models are either young or "young appearing") cross a built in boundary in their human brain wiring when they view porn, just as does a bear or lion who takes his first bite (even if it was accidental or self defense at first) and realizes that humans taste like easy to catch regular food. A human killing predator's brain wiring is instantly changed the minute that it realizes that the humans they feared are actually easy to catch and consume food. That is why animal control officers must kill them.

Another example is sharks. Experts explain that sharks think that human legs, arms and so forth might be legitimate prey since at a glance and with poor eyesight they look like fluttering fish. Sharks often take, experts explain, a "test bite." But most sharks quickly realize that the test bite is of something it does not want to eat. Sharks do not have that instant "brain wiring change" that land based predators have, like bears and lions. Sharks mostly look for a "profile," which is small fish and only the very largest go for an animal as big as a young seal, which still is very different from the profile of a human. So sharks do not tend to become "human eaters" since the human is large and not fitting the profile of what they want to (or need to) eat, which is mostly fish.

So the human porn viewer is not able to reject the "test bite" the way that a shark rejects human hunting because humans do have a "response," which is arousal, upon viewing porn. It "feels like the right food," to use the shark analogy. So like a lion or a bear who accidentally discovers that humans can be killed and eaten without fear, humans instantly have a brain wiring change when they view porn.

The first instant brain change is that sex flips from being "an occasion" to "something continually available." Animals, including humans, used to be controlled by an estrus period, which is where there is no sexual drive except during a cyclical period of fertility (for both male and female). Humans evolved to be sexually available outside of the monthly estrus cycle, so humans lack the biological barrier to the "continuous sex wiring" that porn induces. Society evolved so that men were very motivated to marry young so that they have sex made available to them, with their spouse. Jokes aside, this was more than adequate for the vast majority of humans in their existence. And of course there was the prostitution option, used by humans who are far away from their spouse (military service, travel, etc). So while humans had a continual interest in sex that was freed from estrus cycle, their brain wiring preserved a self control and a sense of timing where sex was not ever felt as being a "continuously available option." Men did not walk down the street thinking of humping all the time. So porn instantly flips the actual wiring of the human evolved brain (especially of men, both straight and gay) from viewing sex as pleasurable but linked to time and occasion to being a constant "availability" where like the air that you breathe, you expect it to be always "available" with no limitations. Porn creates a mental wiring dysfunction that no longer matches historical or present reality.

The second implication of this porn induced wiring change is to "expand" one's view of what is prey in ways that biology and social imperative would never have allowed. While there has always been the occasional child pervert, trust me, it is only this generation that gets an erection or gets wet when viewing a child in a sexual context. While Freud was shocked to find much incest in upper class, and humans do have self control problems, the VAST majority of families always had men that simply lacked ever thinking of their babies or children (or anyone else's) as something they might get sex gratification from. If you went back in time and suggested that to someone, you'd be killed, such would be the authentic revulsion. But porn changes that. Porn presents a whole new class of "prey" to someone who now thinks, through their new wiring, that "prey" (sex) is continually available.

This is also a reason why many humans have trouble being serene in their sex lives in a normal setting. This is also one reason why straights are tempted to gay behavior (I'm not talking about someone authentically gay, but I'm talking about "anything goes" "experimentation.") Again, I'm not being a prude. I'm explaining that a more conventional arrangement for sex within marriage gets truncated before it reaches its full potential for joy because porn destroys the wiring to look at "expanded and continual prey," to use again that example. This is where the lion or bear example breaks down, which is instructive in and of itself. While a human killing lion may now start hunting humans instead of water buffalo or gazelles, the lion's brain is not changed so that all they think about is having one kill after the other after the other. Human killing lions start to hang around where they can prey on humans, but they don't view themselves as "missing out on something" if they don't get a human kill every day or every hour. Lions still maintain their dietary habits as far as how often they hunt and how much food they need to live. Humans totally lose that editing in their porn addled brains. Humans, even if they are not aware of it, now feel like there is something "wrong" if they are not availing themselves of sexual gratification as often as possible and in every way possible.

That is the roots of the great addiction of porn. It breaks the fullness of intimacy within the conventional relationship before it can even flourish and then enslaves the human brain to both consciously and unconsciously always scanning for sex objects and visual if not instantly physical gratification. Humans lose what we call "the custody of the eyes," but they have long ago, upon the first regular viewing of porn, also lost "custody of their normal human brain."

Understanding this you can now understand why I so oppose the proliferation of erotic presentation of advertising, television, movies, video games and so forth. You can now understand that it is not me being "a prude" but because the brain damage is quick and is often irreversible, because there develops a mental frenzy of "sex seeking." One's activities then become more and more self reinforcing of the problematic path. And if someone tries to control custody of their eyes and minds, so that they don't see the neighbor's school child as someone who "turns them on," up pops some celebrity slut or video game or whatever to continually sexualize the brain's patterns of perception. So it is a struggle for even the most honorable human (men in particular) to maintain a normal and healthy view of sex, one that can be fulfilling based on exactly its appropriateness, and NOT its rampant inappropriateness.

When you have a choice in your jobs, choose the less sexualizing product. You know who I mean. And people must stamp out the proliferation of porn if they are to survive into the next century, and I'm not joking. Sexual insanity is not a survival trait.

I hope you find this helpful. It's one of the worst of our problems in global society, and its much more dangerous than you all realize.