My Advice to A Friend With Problem

I have a "friend" I've had to advise about a very unpleasant and thorny problem over many years. She had another incident today and so I'm just repeating my advice to her.

The problem is that she is in a family that for strange and bogus reasons, has been stalked by another family, who consider themselves in some kind of "family feud" of the old crazy European sort. It's a one sided feud because my friend and the rest of her family didn't even know most of the people involved! The feuding family thinks it is some sort of honor vendetta going back to events that never occurred, but they have enshrined like crap in the family heritage. Anyway, very early on they focused on my friend for their anger. Their favorite tool is to take embarrassing photographs of her and then either use them for their own gratification without her knowing, or tell her about them and taunt her. Sometimes they blackmail her for money. I've told her to never pay blackmail money, because she has nothing to be ashamed of, but they find ways to get money from her nonetheless.

They specialize in taking nude pictures of her using long distance lenses, photos of her undergoing medical procedures, photos of her performing bathroom functions, and photos of her being intimate with men in her life. She first heard about this in college, and now she's middle aged, so she's had to endure this for a very long time. It started even before cell phone camera, digital cameras... it goes way back in time, but these people have access to the best equipment of the time. She's not a celebrity at all, so they do not even have that excuse for "the money shot." They do it for imaginary revenge and mortification. Well, here is the advice I've given her throughout the years. First of all, like me, she feels no shame about the human body and could not care less if they posted six foot high photos of her sitting on the toilet using a double roll of Charmin'. So she has no shame about the human body, or bodily functions, except the shame that she feels on behalf of people who have debased themselves, not her. People who do not care about some one else's "body of the soul" has already lost their own soul, and that of their children, who have learned their ways.

Secondly, they have particular glee in photographing her in what they consider "extra marital" relationships, and in hoping to get photos of certain specific sex acts. They've not gotten their fondest wish, of depraved sex acts, since she's not gay nor does she do much outside of what normal couples of a past generation did. For example, she had to have explained to her by a thirteen year old what a certain sex act was when the thirteen year old used the slang for that sex term, when she was receiving familial counseling from my friend! But they are thrilled at photographing her in her youthful college relationships, and in ones they consider her "extra marital" relationships. What these people do not know is that my friend's marriages were not valid - she's not been married. For religious reasons she was betrothed as a very young child to someone she has not been able to be with. That is her only valid relationship. So she has never been married, only betrothed to someone who did not fulfill the marriage. She considers it an unbreakable bond, even as he has not. Anyway, because in her own soul and witness she knows the truth, I've told her to continue to ignore the ignorance and evil of the people who think they have dragged her through the mud. All they have done is put themselves on the list of very angry angels that will drag them to a black fire someday that they will never escape from. Anyone who gets glee from personal pictures, especially of a lady who was abandoned by the man who was supposed to protect her from childhood, is in a state of mortal sin. Because of the stalking, in fact, this drove the lady in question into the arms of various men who took the role of protector and body guard. Sure enough, when she ended her longest relationship because she knew that it was not fair to the man who was "body guard" and not husband, the worst abuse occurred as soon as she was alone. If they had not stalked her (an early attempt was made on her via kidnapping even before she was in high school) and if her betrothed one had shown up, she would not have sought protection from the men that she had.

So I've told her to continue to ignore what they are doing, and to pray, as I do, for the children of such corrupt people, and all the youth who have fallen under their influence, that they can turn away from the eternal chastisement that their parents and "teachers" face.